The anxiety I get when showing somebody Brody before and now comes from not knowing how they are going to act or if they are going to say something that makes me uneasy.
I can think of a time when we were out to eat and a family would not stop staring at us. I felt extremely uncomfortable and I really wanted to get my mama claws out. I couldn’t believe how ignorant and inappropriate I felt their staring was.
After we finished our meal we were walking with Brody passed their table and the mother stopped me.
“Ma’am, this is my daughter, she is 5 years old. She was born with a bilateral cleft lip and palate too and we were so excited to finally run into somebody in public who has not had their repair yet. Do you mind if my daughter gets a better look at him so she can understand more of what she went through as a baby?”
He was going to have his surgery the very next week and I was so happy to give the little girl a piece of her past that she knew little about.
I wanted her to stare forever. She was so amazed. She laughed and said “Mom, I can’t believe I don’t remember this or the surgery!”